Friendship between man and woman – a relative concept, as they are diclinous beings. And draught to each other can occur only through liking. A woman is weak and fragile, how she can be a man’s friend, after all, support in a difficult minute is a basic element of friendship, and how a woman can support the one, in who she subconsciously, potentially sees a defender and father of family?
How a man can see a friend in a woman? He first of all feels her smell, estimates her appearance, subconsciously she is a sexual object for him, as a female in herd. And if she is thus good looking, then animal instincts prevail in him, and she falls prey in his eyes. Certainly, he can speak about ennobled and fine with her, ignore flesh call, convince himself this is just friendship. For the time being …
So, they become friends. Their friendly relations are very lovely and proceed beautifully, until the moment, when councils and experiences for each other lead them to bed. As a rule, it occurs when they both feel bad. She has problems with private life, he left his girlfriend. Grief and pain, insult and disappointment unite them. They start understanding each other, more than ever. Choke with own saliva, telling about how he cheated on her or how she deceived. For certain it occurs in a bar, or club, where there is a binge. Then he, friend, offers following her home, she kindly agrees. They reach an entrance, and she rushes to his embraces with tears and says she would not wish to stay alone at this difficult minute. He, as a true gentleman and friend, offers his support and is easily invited to a cup of coffee. They drink coffee. It is time to sleep. They laid down, friendly, maybe on one sofa. And a light touch of her hand becomes that moment, which crosses out friendship. They tasted a forbidden fruit. Here is a standard model of friendly relations development between man and woman.
Now, it seems to them, or it seems to one of them, their relation will be even stronger. But actually former friendship and real love unites someone, but to someone, on the contrary, it creates problems. After all, when we are on friendly terms, we do not notice many moments. We do not see what becomes visible in love relations. And then all either comes to an end, there is no friendship and there is no love, or sometimes, on the contrary, develops, becomes stronger and indestructible.
Friendship of man and woman is absolutely unnatural form of relations, which can exist rather long only in one case – people are pleasant to each other, but there are force majeure circumstances, which do not give them a possibility to become lovers, or one of the parties madly wants love relations, and the second persistently ignores hints of the first! This axiom is born from practical analysis of many concrete situations and always proves to be true a life. Unisex friendship can be based on mutual respect, similarity of views and characters, that we can easy discuss all peripetias of our intimate life with a friend (or girlfriend) and receive councils concerning it.
Friendship between man and woman has absolutely another power color – friends like being with each other, cheeks turn pink, there is an exchange of energy, but without explosion, causing catalyzation of love process, - it does not come, relations are supported smoothly and touchingly, and their transition in a love stage often is a bolt from the blue for one of participants of this tandem. Notice, for one! Then they find out, as a rule, that the second is already hopelessly enamoured for a long time, and agreed for a role of friend, or even played this role meaningly, not to be refused at once, to become necessary, to communicate with object of passion. If these are schoolmates, a young man and a girl, the first is enamoured, as a rule. But if these are people of mature age, there is an opposite situation - a woman-friend, seeing the most ideal man in the world in her chief or patron, he, owing to a huge set of offers, does not perceive her as a sexual object at all.
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